Let God’s Love Takeover Your Life

“ 31 What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things. 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 39 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”
Romans 8:31-32, 35, 39(NIV)

Pain from the hands of the person that supposed to love you is not love – it’s abuse!

God tells us in 1John 4:8 that He is love. Loving is not only what He does, love is who He is. He created everything that we see out of His tremendous love, and that includes us. And not only this, He has given us His very essence, and we have received the privilege and honor to take on His nature. He commands us to be conduits of His love, to wear it like a second skin and dole it out to everyone we meet. This is our identity. Ephesians 5:8(NIV) tells us, “For once you were full of darkness, but now you have light from the Lord. So live as people of light!” From this, you and I can be sure that any time we are not treated with love, and we walk outside of love’s way ourselves, something is very wrong.

When we break down an abusive relationship to its lowest common denominator, it is a relationship where one person is trying to control another through violence. This is not love, but fear, and it is very important to make this distinction. Love belongs to God, and by His example, love is defined. You and I don’t get to put our spin on it. God has set love in motion, and etched its defining characteristics in permanent, impenetrable, and immutable stone. 1John 4:18(NIV) says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” Fear has to do with punishment. You do not deserve to be punished, because Jesus Christ took all punishment with him when he was nailed to the cross. He paid the highest price that could be paid for our sins. Because of him, we are free, and Galatians 5:1(NLT) tells us, “So Christ has truly set us free. Now make sure that you stay free, and don’t get tied up again in slavery to the law.

It is important for you to know that domestic violence and abuse is not a reality that speaks the truth about the freedom you have received through Jesus Christ. God’s desire is for you to walk in freedom, and He is happy to help you do this. He tells us in 3John 1:2 that He wishes above all other things for us to be in good health and to prosper in every way as our very soul’s prosper as well. In John 10:10, Jesus Christ tells us that he came to the earth to give us a more than abundant life. We would all probably be most happy with just an abundant life, but Jesus has made a more than abundant life available to us. This is what God desires for all His children.

An abusive relationship does not represent the kind of love that your loving Heavenly Father wants for you. Love is kind, tender, and forgiving. It does not hurt you physically and cause you pain. In the past, people remained in abusive situations because they didn’t have knowledge about God’s love, and they didn’t know how to have faith in Him, but this is the information age. The Word of God is readily available in many ways. When we know God’s Word, we are armed with His powerful truth, and we can have greater faith in His power and love more than ever!

God’s Word testifies that there’s no way He would want the children of His Royal Kingdom to be controlled by anything other than His love and His Word. You were never meant to live as a victim, but to walk in the freedom Jesus Christ has won for you! Surrender to God’s guidance and direction. Study His Word, pray often, and allow the Lord Jesus Christ to open up a whole new level of possibilities for you through God’s love. This is what God wants. Open your heart to Him, and you will always be eternally grateful that you chose to let His love takeover your life. ■

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There Are No Risk with God’s Love

1 John 4:18; There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment.  But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.

How do we get the most out of love that we possibly can without getting hurt? As much as we would like to keep our hearts from feeling hurt, let down, disappointed or heart broken, once you allow yourself to feel that very real emotion for another human being, you run the risk of all of the above.  1 John helps us out a great deal when it comes to protecting ourselves because it speaks to the basic element of what we endeavor to stay away from – the fear of what loving someone can do if we let someone get too close or if we allow ourselves to become dependent on that person providing what we so desperately want out of life. 

We cannot allow fear into our hearts because once you do, it rips apart anything good and godly within you.  This is why our Father warns us to guard it with such diligence, He tells us guard it above everything else because He knows that all of the decisions that matter most to us will emanate from this place.  And if you don’t keep a close eye on this epicenter called the heart, feelings can become easily hurt, all it takes is one time for someone to torment and persecute you and slowly you begin to subconsciously put up walls to keep love out.  Just so you don’t risk the injury anymore. 

Walls will not only block anyone from coming in, but they will also block the love of God from getting out.  This in and of itself is torment.  It can clearly devastate your life and the only thing that can break you free is God.  Philippians 2:15 says, “Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.”  This is how we have to see ourselves, as bright lights shining in a world of darkness.  And this is why it is so important for us to speak, think, behave and live – fear free! 

For instance, if there is someone that you’ve offended or hurt, consider going to that person or write them an email or letter to apologize for any offenses that you may have committed against them.  God tells us to be forthcoming about things like this so that we can move forward with a pure heart and a right spirit.  Go easy on yourself as well, this kind of mindset and humble heart takes time for some folks, as with anything, especially when you’re in a deep place of conviction.  We have to give God the opportunity to help us work through our own heart.   

You want to always portray a genuine, adequate portrayal of the real truth of what is in your heart.  Sometimes the truth is hidden until we are ready for God to reveal it to us.  Keep in mind, fear has a hanging partner named arrogance and oh my goodness is it a blocker, and it also is a part of the wall you have to climb over.  This can be a doozey to accept or confront, and only the ones that are serious about breaking down walls will be able to get out of their own way and allow God’s love to penetrate your heart and knock down those walls. 

John 8:36 says, “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”  Fear is the material used to build your walls but God’s love will be the power tool to make it come crumbling down.  The last thing you want is to have fear making decisions for you.  I cannot begin to tell you how much you can lose and how devastating of a mistake it is to let fear call the shots in your life.

One truth is that as we continue to grow closer to God His love will continue to grow deeper and deeper in us and kick fear to the curb.  His love will keep you in perfect peace as you keep your heart and mind stayed on His love and goodness.

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“There Are No Risk with God's Love”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2020. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.

When A Nudge Feels like A Hard Thump

I’ve heard some of the strongest and fiercest women of God declare they’d never depend on a man for their happiness. They say they’d never allow the man in their lives to be their everything. If this were true, their hearts wouldn’t be completely shattered when heartbreak comes knocking at their door.

Women are often selfless caretakers of those that are objects of their affection. Whether it’s children, parents, siblings, spouses, or significant others, some of us have an innate ability to nurture. Because of this, we sometimes make the men in our lives the central focus of our worlds. This can happen without us even noticing what we’re doing. Slowly we allow our relationship with God to slip to second place and make our other relationships our first priority. No matter how you might try to slice it, this is going to be a recipe for disaster. And most of us don’t realize it until heartache or the pain of disappointment comes knocking at our doors.

Romans 8:1(NLT) says, “So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.” Condemnation paralyzes a person, because it makes us feel so bad about ourselves, that we fall into a state of putting ourselves down constantly. We don’t think and feel the way that God thinks and feels about us. So, condemnation doesn’t do anyone any good. In Matthew 6:33(NLT), Jesus Christ tells us, “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” This is instruction and direction from heaven. It is why God created us. He created us to be His children, and as His children, we are to seek His Kingdom above all other things, and we’re to live righteously.

Jesus Christ doesn’t give us these wonderful instructions and directives to put us in prison. Exactly the opposite. He tells us these things to free us, to help us walk in the destiny God has in store for us. When we don’t seek God first, He doesn’t punish us. He doesn’t love us any less. Instead, God tells us the right thing to do so that we can reorder our steps and begin to walk in harmony with His Word and Will. He forgives us as soon as we ask Him. So, we should also forgive ourselves and be committed to turn things around by praying more, increasing our study time in the Bible, and spending more time with God. This is the way to be continually blessed.

No person on this earth has the ability to make us more or less than what God has made us. Psalm 28:7(NLT) says, “The LORD is my strength and shield. I trust him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy. I burst out in songs of thanksgiving.” God is our Sufficiency and Source of all blessings. He is the Source of our joy. Often, you will hear a person say that their husband, wife, or children is their everything. These are very sincere statements and they probably come from a good place, but a spouse or a child cannot give you life. Only the Spirit of the Living God gives life. He alone deserves all glory and honor.

A good attitude is to always recognize that spouses, families, and loved ones are treasures that come from God, but we must never put the gift before the Giver. When we begin to do this, and we let our relationship with God slip out of first place, we may endure some painful situations. Sometimes the person we treasure most will stop treasuring us. This can hurt really bad, but we shouldn’t sink into despair and become paralyzed by the pain. Life’s nudge may feel like a pretty hard thump, but it should be viewed as a wake-up call to reprioritize. James 1:2-4(NLT) says it best when it tells us, “2 Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.”

Life will repeatedly teach us the lesson of seeking God and putting our relationship with Him before any other thing. It doesn’t have to be a hard lesson, but sometimes we make it this way because we ignore the reality of our identity as God’s children. We don’t ever have to go through hardships alone, because we have a loving Father that is close, and He will rescue us every time. God is love, and He teaches us how to love through Him, so that the very best can be done for everyone. So, let’s not allow our relationship with God through the Lord Jesus Christ to take a backseat, because honoring the Lord is truly the only way that we can operate at our best, and be the best for those we love. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“When A Nudge Feels like A Hard Thump”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2020. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.

Can God Keep A Man from Breaking Your Heart?

“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”
Matthew 6:33(NLT)

“Letting go is not that easy. It just hurts too much. I’m trying so hard to stop thinking about him, but I don’t think I’ll ever get over him!”

There are very few things in life that are more disappointing and hurtful than feeling as though the significant person in your life doesn’t love you. Whatever it is that has caused their feelings to change, you hope in your heart that the person will want to work towards resolving the issue, but this isn’t always the case. Sometimes they’ll want to cut their losses so you both can go your own separate ways. This can be a baffling decision, because the whole time you believed the both of you were working towards the same goal. In your mind, it feels like a betrayal, and it is a very difficult thing to accept.

There are things about ourselves that we don’t realize until we go through some of the most challenging times in life. All of us will face seasons when we must endure these hardships, and they are very unpredictable. When these challenges are in the form of a heartbreak from the man you deeply love, you learn very quickly how much you’ve been completely wrapped up in this individual, and you learn whether you’ve neglected to strengthen your spiritual well-being in Christ for the sake of having someone in your life. It doesn’t matter who you are, if you lose yourself in another person, a train wreck is bound to happen. God never intended our relationships with spouses or boyfriends to take away from our relationship with Him.

I remember comforting a young woman who was having a very hard time with a break-up. Her boyfriend told her, “I just don’t feel the way you do!” When she heard those words, she told me she literally almost fainted. The hurt was so deep, and his words cut like a knife. She said she just wanted to disappear. Feeling as though nothing could ease her pain, she prayed to God for the strength to accept her boyfriend’s decision, but she was suffering.

This young woman asked me, “Can God keep a man from breaking your heart?” Jesus Christ said in Mark 10:27 that all things are possible with God, but wisdom requires us to pray only for those things that are in His Will. God can do anything, but it is not His Will to overstep the desires of another person’s heart. He will not overstep their free-will because He is faithful to His Word. So, we should not ask Him to do something that violates His Word.

Heavenly Father knows how badly we can hurt over our relationships, but His Word instructs us in Proverbs 4:23 to guard our hearts, because our hearts belong to Him. We should not allow anything in our hearts that could harm our relationship with God. Jesus Christ commanded us in Mark 12:30 that we must love the Lord our God with all our hearts, souls, minds, and strength. Loving God comes first, and when it does, He will lead, guide, and direct us in our relationships so that the honor we have for Him is not compromised by the love we have for the significant person in our lives.

When we’re so crushed by someone walking away from us, it shows us that we had not given all our hearts to God. Our hearts were trampled upon by someone who couldn’t love us the way Jesus Christ loves the church, and we should not desire this person more than we desire to change our patterns and put Jesus Christ in the driver’s seat of our lives; because this is where he belongs. Heavenly Father would like us to have enough faith in Him to let the person go when they want to go. God is our everything. He will take care of us and present us with someone who will love us just right. But we can’t forget the very valuable lesson that life will always teach us, and it is that nothing comes before God. To love the right way is to love through Him.

Colossians 2:10 tells us that we are complete through Jesus Christ, who is the head of all principality and power. And Romans 8:37 affirms that we are more than conquerors through Jesus Christ. We don’t need God to keep someone from breaking our hearts. We need to keep our hearts strong through loving and honoring God and His Word through Jesus Christ. When we do this, our hearts may hurt from time to time, but they will never be broken. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“Can God Keep A Man from Breaking Your Heart?”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2020. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.

His Love Cannot Fail

“Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church.”
Ephesians 4:15(NLT)

Why do the same situations keep happening in my life – I thought I learned my lesson. I feel like I’m in Kindergarten when I should be at the level of a PhD.

Just when you think you have gotten a clear understanding of what it means to walk in faith, something happens in your life that signals it’s possible your faith has weakened.  You become bold in asking those painful questions of God, “Father, where are you in this?” If you’ve asked God this question, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with whether our faith needs to be tweaked and elevated. The Apostle Paul said in 2Corinthians 13:5 that our due diligence should be to continually examine ourselves to see if our faith is genuine. I trust the Lord, but during the toughest times of my life, I felt I needed a boatload of faith to get me through. I endured seasons where, instead of assurance, I found doubt.

Ephesians 4:15 gives every believer God’s marching orders. Our motivation should be to speak God’s truth in love, and to grow in every way like Christ. Heavenly Father wants us increasing in this growth continually. We endure such complications and struggles in life, and sometimes after having gotten over a hurdle, sometimes we think we won’t have to struggle again. Well, life is such that just when we think our faith muscle couldn’t be stretched any further, it’s going to be.  God wants us to know and trust that our faith in Him will never be misplaced, because He will never disappoint us. 

Troubles and challenging situations bring out any doubt that we have in our hearts. For some of us, doubt is our lane of choice, because we still haven’t put our faith in the Lord Jesus Christ in first gear. We think to ourselves that we can’t possibly handle any more. We go to God with, “Father, what’s next?!!! Every area of my life is under attack. How much more do I have to take?” We feel we might break, and this gives doubt the running start it is looking for. 

Doubt stems from fear. We know this, but we still wrestle with whether to trust God or to tread in that darkness that we know so well. Think of how God must feel about this. The significant relationships in our lives will help us to better understand how important faith is to Him. God created marriage to teach us great lessons about faith. Take for example how we, as women, expect that our partners will show us their love. When our partners no longer respond by showing us their love, we instantly suspect something is wrong; they’re not being supportive, thoughtful, and giving. If they continue with this behavior, you know what happens? We lose faith in their love. 

God never stops loving us. John 3:16 tells us that He loves us so much that He gave His only begotten Son to save the world, to save everyone, so that whoever believes in what God did through Christ will be saved. You see, we must believe in His overwhelming, unconditional love. The way that we demonstrate our love for God is through our faith in Him. He will never, ever stop loving us, but our fear and doubt means that we are losing faith in God’s love, and this does not bring Him the honor He is due. 

God’s Will is that we lean on Him totally and trust Him with all our hearts. Yes, obstacles have a way of pushing us to our limits, but Romans 8:37 reminds us to cling to our identity in Christ. We are more than conquerors in him, and through him we have the victory in every circumstance. Hebrews 11:6 tells us that it is impossible to please God without faith, because anyone that comes to Him must believe He exists, and they must also believe that He is a Rewarder of those that diligently seek Him. God rewards our faith!  So, let’s continue to pray in faith and trust our loving and wonderful Father, no matter what it is that we face. He will protect us, and His love will never fail. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NKJV) are taken from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“God’s Love Cannot Fail”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2020. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.

When We Take Our Eyes Off God

It was hard to listen to one of my dear friends’ frustration this week. For nearly 30 minutes, she complained that her significant other of two-years will never take responsibility for his mistakes. They’ve had many conversations on wanting to move their relationship to the next level, which is marriage, but they have two huge problems. The first is their lack of trust and the second is their inability to communicate with each other about difficult issues. Both are huge barriers that keep popping up and prevents them from moving forward in their relationship.

2 Peter 1:3 (NIV) says “His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.” The knowledge of God’s Word gives us all the instruction and guidance we need; it covers everything that pertains to living a Godly life. All problems can be resolved through the wisdom of God’s Word, and He has certainly instructed us how to treat one another in a relationship. Whether you’ve been in each other’s lives for six-months or sixteen years, there are disciplines expressed through God’s love that will build a solid foundation for any relationship. One of these disciplines is that both individuals must be vulnerable to one another and be accountable for their actions. This is necessary for the success of their union.   

When two people first meet, they should want to bring their very best to the table. They should be the best representation of themselves. As the relationship develops, this shouldn’t diminish but increase. Often, the exact opposite occurs. After the courtship has lasted a few months, folks become too comfortable, and they stop valuing each other as they once did. They allow those very best qualities they exhibited in the beginning to take a backseat. 

Colossians 1:11(NLT) contains a discipline that should be in our continual prayer lives. It says, “We also pray that you will be strengthened with all his glorious power so you will have all the endurance and patience you need.” Life in general requires us to be spiritually strengthened through God’s power, and marriage will most definitely require it. Endurance and patience are fruits of the Spirit. God commands us to produce the Spirit’s fruit so we can handle any situation. If we obey His command, we will increase in faith and remain poised to minister to our spouses. Through endurance and patience, we will love and operate out of God’s grace. Yes, there are going to be things about the significant person in our lives that we won’t exactly be pleased with, but the love of God in our hearts will help us navigate this in a way the preserves the unity of the relationship. 

We can’t take our eyes off God’s standards or principles. Doing so would allow the enemy an opportunity for his evil attacks. Romans 5:2-5 tells us that our goal must be for God to receive the glory in every situation. This is the hope we can rejoice in. And not only this, we can rejoice when we go through tough times, because they produce patience and endurance in us, and these build character. They build character because we begin to recognize that through tribulations and troubles, God’s strength and power works best. When we look to Him and lean on His love, His Spirit will give us what we need to endure the difficult times in a relationship. 

Many of us look to the significant person to be the hope, but our hope must be in God who works in every person that loves Him.  It is a hope that will never disappoint, because God’s love has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit that indwells us. So, making the decision to trust God and lean on His strength activates the best in us, and it will keep us walking in this grace if we choose love every time. 

We can become so engrossed in the demands of a relationship that we lose sight of the reality that our purpose is to be a blessing, not to lose ourselves in the person. When we start constantly blaming them and not looking at ourselves, we lose an opportunity to see God at work within. Doubt then comes into play, because we’ve taken our eyes off God. 2 Timothy 2:5(NLT) tells us, “And athletes cannot win the prize unless they follow the rules.” In significant relationships, we must learn how to submit ourselves to one another in humility and always keep our focus on loving with a heart full of the love of Christ. If we truly want the prize of a loving and faithful relationship, we must follow God’s Word, patiently endure, and let His Spirit take the lead in every aspect of our union.■

Scripture quotations marked (NKJV) are taken from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“When We Take Our Eyes Off God”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2020. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.

The Lessons of Love and Heartbreak

2 Corinthians 12:9(NLT)
“Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.”

The first time I remember reading 2Corinthians 12:9 was in my late twenties. I was going through a very emotional time and was trying to mend my brokenness. I had an emotionally wrenching breakup with a man that I cared for very much. As with any couple, things were not always easy. We had tough times, but had gotten through most of them, and I truly believed he was man that I’d share my life with, but he didn’t feel the same way. This left a void in my life, and if you’ve ever experienced heartbreak like this, you know how terrible it can feel and how much you want the hurt to stop. It was during this time that 2Corinthians 12:9 brought tremendous comfort, because I knew I needed God’s strength and grace to get me through.

Both my ex-boyfriend and I were Christians. We were adamant about pursuing the things of God and living by the example of Christ. Through most of our relationship, I thought we were on the same page, that we were both preparing for the likely possibility of marriage. I was wrong and ended up being crushed. I couldn’t understand it. Everything had felt so right, and it didn’t make sense for things to fall apart the way they did. As I waded through all the emotions and hurt, I did what must of us do when we’re in the shock of heartbreak; I asked, “God, why did you let this happen to me?”

Proverbs 14:12 tells us that there is a path that seems right, but it ends in death and destruction. None of us really believe we’ll choose this path. We think to ourselves that we’re intelligent and astute enough to not make decisions that end badly, but life really doesn’t care all that much about our intelligence. God has designed life to respond to the truth, so what matters to Him is that we are humble. Our humility keeps us on the right path.

How does it do this—how does humility keep us on the right path? Jesus Christ tells us that without humility, we can’t enter God’s Kingdom; it’s just that important! 1Peter 5:6(NLT) tells us, “So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor.”  The greatest lesson we can learn about hurt is how to trust God to get over it. The other very important lesson is revealed to many of us in hindsight. After our hearts are broken, we realize the extent to which we must lean on God, so that we make decisions that are guided by Him. Even when we think a person has all the attributes that would make him or her a good spouse, we simply can’t know this to be true. Only God knows who is best for us. If we humble ourselves before Him and ask for His guidance, He will help us make the right decisions.

It was not an easy process of getting over the hurt of this heartbreak, but I prayed a lot, and most importantly, I trusted God. I trusted His Word. Psalm 46:1(NKJV) says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” This verse is my reality and I’m so thankful. It will be your reality too if you trust Him. During the process of God healing my heart, there were times when my mind drifted to doubt and dismay. I had the kind of thoughts can distance you from the understanding you need, but the Spirit of the Lord comforted me. The Lord taught me patience and humility. Through His process, I learned another important spiritual lesson; and it perhaps is the one that most keeps my feet from falling into another trap. I had allowed another human being to be the center of my emotional strength. I depended on another person to do for my soul what only God’s love can do. Lordship belongs to Jesus Christ and no other, and when we humble ourselves to this reality, our healing will be long lasting and life changing.

We don’t have to be defeated by heartbreak. If we pray, obey God, and lean totally on Him, He will elevate us far above the heartache we’ve experienced. The Lord wants us to walk in victory and have a happy life. He will bless us to have a fulfilling relationship that will last, and we must never doubt this. It is natural to mourn the lost of something that has meant so much to us, but we must not campout in misery too long. We should give ourselves a little time to mourn, but then we must remember that we serve a God that gives us grace and mercy. His power works best in our weakness, and as we are committed to move further in His Will, at the right time, He will lift us up and cause us to our heartbreak to fade away. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NKJV) are taken from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved. 

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“The Lessons of Love and Heartbreak”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2020. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.