Can God Keep A Man from Breaking Your Heart?

“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”
Matthew 6:33(NLT)

“Letting go is not that easy. It just hurts too much. I’m trying so hard to stop thinking about him, but I don’t think I’ll ever get over him!”

There are very few things in life that are more disappointing and hurtful than feeling as though the significant person in your life doesn’t love you. Whatever it is that has caused their feelings to change, you hope in your heart that the person will want to work towards resolving the issue, but this isn’t always the case. Sometimes they’ll want to cut their losses so you both can go your own separate ways. This can be a baffling decision, because the whole time you believed the both of you were working towards the same goal. In your mind, it feels like a betrayal, and it is a very difficult thing to accept.

There are things about ourselves that we don’t realize until we go through some of the most challenging times in life. All of us will face seasons when we must endure these hardships, and they are very unpredictable. When these challenges are in the form of a heartbreak from the man you deeply love, you learn very quickly how much you’ve been completely wrapped up in this individual, and you learn whether you’ve neglected to strengthen your spiritual well-being in Christ for the sake of having someone in your life. It doesn’t matter who you are, if you lose yourself in another person, a train wreck is bound to happen. God never intended our relationships with spouses or boyfriends to take away from our relationship with Him.

I remember comforting a young woman who was having a very hard time with a break-up. Her boyfriend told her, “I just don’t feel the way you do!” When she heard those words, she told me she literally almost fainted. The hurt was so deep, and his words cut like a knife. She said she just wanted to disappear. Feeling as though nothing could ease her pain, she prayed to God for the strength to accept her boyfriend’s decision, but she was suffering.

This young woman asked me, “Can God keep a man from breaking your heart?” Jesus Christ said in Mark 10:27 that all things are possible with God, but wisdom requires us to pray only for those things that are in His Will. God can do anything, but it is not His Will to overstep the desires of another person’s heart. He will not overstep their free-will because He is faithful to His Word. So, we should not ask Him to do something that violates His Word.

Heavenly Father knows how badly we can hurt over our relationships, but His Word instructs us in Proverbs 4:23 to guard our hearts, because our hearts belong to Him. We should not allow anything in our hearts that could harm our relationship with God. Jesus Christ commanded us in Mark 12:30 that we must love the Lord our God with all our hearts, souls, minds, and strength. Loving God comes first, and when it does, He will lead, guide, and direct us in our relationships so that the honor we have for Him is not compromised by the love we have for the significant person in our lives.

When we’re so crushed by someone walking away from us, it shows us that we had not given all our hearts to God. Our hearts were trampled upon by someone who couldn’t love us the way Jesus Christ loves the church, and we should not desire this person more than we desire to change our patterns and put Jesus Christ in the driver’s seat of our lives; because this is where he belongs. Heavenly Father would like us to have enough faith in Him to let the person go when they want to go. God is our everything. He will take care of us and present us with someone who will love us just right. But we can’t forget the very valuable lesson that life will always teach us, and it is that nothing comes before God. To love the right way is to love through Him.

Colossians 2:10 tells us that we are complete through Jesus Christ, who is the head of all principality and power. And Romans 8:37 affirms that we are more than conquerors through Jesus Christ. We don’t need God to keep someone from breaking our hearts. We need to keep our hearts strong through loving and honoring God and His Word through Jesus Christ. When we do this, our hearts may hurt from time to time, but they will never be broken. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“Can God Keep A Man from Breaking Your Heart?”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2020. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.