I bet just about every woman knows the verse in Philippians 4:6(NLT). It tells us, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.” Look at how lovingly our Heavenly Father gives us a pathway back to peace. He doesn’t leave us guessing. First, He tells us what not to do: don’t worry. Then He tells us exactly what to do: pray, bring our needs before Him, and remember His faithfulness.
Worry has a way of slowly wearing us down. It creeps into our thoughts, steals our confidence, and makes us question what God has already promised. But worry is not who we are. Fear is not our identity. Doubt does not define us. As believers, we are women who have been given faith, strength, and authority through Jesus Christ.
And we have to be careful because the enemy loves to use painful situations to make us turn against ourselves. He wants us to replay every hurt, every mistake, every word spoken against us until we begin to believe the lies. But we can’t let the devil pick us apart. We can’t partner with the very voice that is trying to convince us that we are powerless, broken, or forgotten.
This is especially important for women who have experienced domestic violence and abuse. Many women have spent years hearing words meant to tear them down. They have been criticized, controlled, blamed, and made to feel like they were the problem. Little by little, those wounds can settle deep within the soul if they are not brought before God for healing.
I’ve heard the testimonies of so many women of faith who have walked through some of the darkest seasons imaginable. They have faced abandonment, financial struggles, betrayal, emotional abuse, and physical violence. Some felt like they were being attacked from every direction. Just when they thought one storm was finally passing, another storm appeared. They felt like throwing in the towel, but they didn’t.
One of the common threads in their stories is that they discovered something powerful: anxiety and doubt can steal precious moments that God intended for peace. They spent time worrying about whether God would show up, whether He would make a way, or whether they would be left behind.
His Word reminds us in Isaiah 43:2 (NLT), “When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.”
God never abandoned them. He never lost sight of them. He walked with them through the valley and brought them into a place of healing, restoration, and renewed strength. He will do the same for you. Their testimonies remind us that every believer will face moments when their faith is tested. We can know God's promises, and still struggle with fear.
We all know the grips of that sinking feeling. The kind of heaviness that settles so deeply you cannot even explain the depth of it. Your heart feels troubled, your mind feels exhausted, and nothing seems to bring comfort. In those moments, we know God’s healing power. We know His promises. We know He has told us not to worry, yet there are moments when fear still rises within us.
Many women who have experienced abuse know this feeling all too well. After being hurt, controlled, criticized, or made to feel powerless, fear can become a familiar companion. Even when friends, loved ones, and spiritual mentors remind us to give it to Jesus, we may find ourselves surrendering our burdens one moment and picking them back up the next. But this is where God begins His healing work within us. He is not asking us to pretend we were never hurt. He is teaching us that our pain does not have to determine who we become. He is showing us that the things that happened to us do not have the authority to define who we are.
As God’s children, we can learn something powerful by looking at the love we have for our own children. Many of us would do everything within our power to protect our children, provide for them, and help them through difficult seasons. That love did not originate with us. God placed that capacity to love within us because we were created in His image.
And if we, as imperfect parents, know how to love our children, how much greater is the love of our Heavenly Father? God’s love is higher, deeper, and more complete than anything we could ever give. Isaiah 55:8–9 reminds us that His thoughts and ways are higher than ours. He sees what we cannot see. He knows what we do not know. And even when we feel forgotten, He has never lost sight of us.
Fear is one of the enemy’s greatest tools because it tries to convince us that something is true simply because it feels real. Fear says, “You will never recover.” Fear says, “You will always be broken.” Fear says, “God will not come through for you.”
But fear is a liar.
We cannot allow the enemy to continue picking us apart with thoughts that contradict what God has spoken over our lives. Instead, we must learn to bring those thoughts before God and replace them with His truth. Yes, learning to choose faith over fear takes time. Healing takes time. Trust takes time. But God has given us a pathway forward. His Word tells us in Philippians 4:6-8 to remember His goodness, to thank Him for what He has done, and to fix our thoughts on what is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and admirable.
This is how we begin to rebuild what was damaged. This is how we strengthen our faith. This is how we stop allowing fear to have the final word.
The enemy may have tried to pick you apart, but God is in the business of putting you back together.
If someone has spent years trying to convince you that you are not enough, remember this: their words do not have the authority to define you. God’s Word does. You are loved. You are seen. You are valuable. You are a daughter of the King.
Don’t let him pick you apart. Don't let his words determine how you see yourself. Don’t let the pain of what happened to you become stronger than the truth of who God says you are.
Give those broken places to the One who knows how to restore. The same God who carried you through yesterday will strengthen you for today and prepare you for tomorrow. ■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
“Don’t Let Him Pick You Apart!”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2026. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.


