Christ Will Rescue You

Monday, September 28, 2026

Don’t Faint in Your Mind

I was encouraging a group of single sisters in the Word a few months ago, and I strongly encouraged them to resist the temptation to get weary in their minds from the wait. I’m pretty adamant about encouraging my beloved Sisters in Christ. It’s because I know from experience that once we allow our minds to become weary, from there, our hearts can sink very fast. Then, we can become saddened to the point of depression. I know depression very well and suffered through it miserably in my early twenties. My friend, a devout member of a ‘Holiness’ religion, would say to me at the time, “You got that spirit on ya’.” She didn’t mean to be offensive, and I didn’t hold this against her, but her statement didn’t encourage me in Christ; it made me feel even worse.

It’s been years since I’ve thought about the comment my friend would make during my times of deep sadness, but a recent interaction with a wonderful woman brought the feelings back to my remembrance. She’s had more than a few relationships that didn’t end in the way that she’d hoped. Her heart is still aching, and she is struggling with feelings of loneliness and depression. She also shared that she felt I had been insensitive to the challenges and heartbreaks of some single Christian women that have been in wait-mode a long time.

Authority is earned when a person does more than talk the talk, they walk the walk. They speak from a place of experience—of having learned hard lessons well. I assumed authority in the area of loneliness because I was in the boxing ring with it for more than a minute. We had quite a few rounds, and I walked away stronger in the Lord, determined to walk in faith and receive whatever He deemed best for my life. I said to Heavenly Father, “I’d like to be married, but I’m okay with it being just You and me, if that is Your Will.” Don’t get me wrong, in my heart of hearts, I really wanted to be partnered in marriage, but not with the wrong person. I had been down that route and understood on the deepest level possible that it wasn’t worth the emotional and mental energy.

I understood my uniqueness as a woman, and I learned to walk in it humbly and confidently. I knew that certain things in a man just wouldn’t work for me. And if there wasn’t anyone out there that could genuinely stand in a space and place of destiny with me, I would trust God to help me rock this journey as a single soldier, and I’d be cool with it.

Renewing my mind to God’s Word helped me receive His divine healing in the area of depression and loneliness in my life. It has continued to help me walk in wholeness in these areas for many years. Committing myself to God opened the door of opportunity to marital partnership. He taught me many spiritual lessons and gave me pearls of wisdom about what it takes to be spiritually prepared to partner. I have endeavored to share them with as many people as possible. So, when this wonderful sister gleaned the impression that I didn’t understand the struggle, it renewed my commitment to encourage sisters to hold fast to the dream. It also sparked a newfound desire to encourage sisters more seasoned in maturity and age to never lose hope and not faint in their minds.

My friend was more mature in years than me but still lacked the wisdom to encourage me back then in a way that inspired hope beyond my condition. It would have helped my journey tremendously to know that the introduction of light dispels darkness and changing the way we think according to the positives of God’s promises brings life!

When we say anything that is contrary to what God says, we are in error. He will not back it up. He will not bless that which is not done in Heaven. There is no sadness in heaven, but it is permitted in earth because of the darkness that exists within it. Before I knew better, I said repeatedly, “I am sad…I am depressed…I am so lonely.” Heaven couldn’t get the blessing to me because the blessings were bound up by my confessions. The words we speak and the thoughts we think must be in alignment with heaven, for heaven is the destiny of our existence. Anything outside its reality is not the truth, but a lie from the pit of hell.

James 4:3(NKJV) says, “You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss…” When we ask, we should not ask amiss. When we confess, we should not confess amiss. In other words, when we ask, we shouldn’t ask in a way that misses the mark of God’s truth. When we confess, we should not confess in a way that misses the mark of His truth. 1John 5:14 says that if we ask anything according to His WILL, He hears us. We must ask according to God’s Will. We must confess according to God’s Will. His Will is His Word; therefore, we must ask according to His WORD. We must confess that we are what HE says we are, that we can have what HE says we can have, and we can do what HE says we can do.

God says that His Word doesn’t go out void. He sends it to us, and we have the great privilege and responsibility to present it back to Him in faith. This is our required response to Him—to send it back to Him in faith.

If we sink so low in our thoughts and confessions, that God’s encouragement irks us, that’s a problem; a pretty big one. Heavenly Father will not support our being comfortable with a mind-and-heart-set like this. He’ll continually send someone to shake us up and shake us out of our weariness—to make us dive full force into His Word so that our strength is renewed. Then, we’ll mount up with wings like eagles. We’ll run and not be weary, we’ll walk and not faint—not in our minds, and not in our hearts.■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

Tuesday, September 22, 2026

Why Do I Keep Going Back?

One of the hardest questions a woman may ask herself after leaving an abusive relationship is, “Why do I keep going back?” Sometimes she goes back because she still loves him. Sometimes she goes back because she remembers the good times and believes the person she fell in love with is still somewhere underneath the hurt. Sometimes there are children, finances, nowhere else to live, or the fear of starting over. And sometimes he apologizes, promises that things will be different, and for a while, they are. None of this means she is stupid or weak. Abuse can create a complicated cycle that is difficult to break, especially when love and fear have become mixed together. We have to be careful not to look at a woman who has returned and ask, “What is wrong with her?” A better question may be, “What has she been carrying that we cannot see?”

Jesus sees what other people can’t. He sees the fear, the confusion, the hope, the disappointment, and the part of her that still wants to believe things can be different. He doesn’t need her to pretend that everything is okay. Psalm 34:18 (NLT) says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” There is something powerful about knowing that God doesn’t turn His back on us when we are hurting or when we have made decisions we wish we could change. Jesus meets us right where we are, but He loves us too much to leave us there. His love doesn’t require us to remain in a place where we are continually being harmed.

Sometimes a woman keeps going back because she has begun to believe that this is the best she can expect from love. After being criticized, controlled, threatened, or made to feel worthless for long enough, it can become difficult to remember who you were before all of that. But Jesus tells us the truth about who we are. John 8:36 (NKJV) says, “Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.” Freedom doesn’t mean that every part of your life will suddenly become easy. It may take time, help, counseling, practical support, and people who will walk beside you. But freedom begins when you stop believing that someone else's treatment of you determines your worth. You belong to Christ, and what He says about you matters more than what an abusive person has said about you.

And if you have gone back before, you don’t have to believe that you have ruined your chance to make a different choice. You can ask God for wisdom, courage, and direction for what comes next. James 1:5 (NLT) says, “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you.” Sometimes God helps us directly through His Word and the Holy Spirit, and sometimes He helps us through other people—trusted family members, godly counselors, advocates, pastors, or others who can help us see clearly and make a safe plan. You do not have to figure everything out in one day. But you can begin telling the truth about what is happening and asking God to show you your next step.

If you keep going back, please don't let shame convince you that Jesus has given up on you. He hasn't. But His grace is not an invitation to keep returning to what is destroying you. Jesus is not asking you to prove your love by enduring abuse. He is calling you toward truth, wisdom, and life. Psalm 147:3 (NLT) says, “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds.” Healing may take time, and the road may not look the same for every woman. But you can bring every part of your life to Jesus—the parts you're proud of and the parts you wish you could change. You can ask Him for wisdom today, take the next safe step, and trust Him to meet you there. ■

Tuesday, September 15, 2026

Don’t Dim Your Light to Keep Others Comfortable

John 3:20-21(NLT)

“20 All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. 21 But those who do what is right come to the light so others can see that they are doing what God wants.”

Learning to Recognize What God Is Showing You

God has given every believer the ability to recognize what is good and what is evil, and to discern what belongs to His Kingdom and what does not. We have this ability because His Spirit lives within us. But having the Holy Spirit does not mean we will always make the right choice. We still have a flesh that wants its own way, and we still have to choose whether we will obey God or give in to what feels good, familiar, or difficult to let go. 1Corinthians 3:16 tells us that our bodies are the temple of the Living God, and the Spirit of God dwells within us. That should change the way we live.

We have access to the wisdom and direction of the Holy Spirit, but we have to be willing to listen and obey. Sometimes we know exactly what God is showing us, but we don't want to act on it because obedience may require us to change something we have become comfortable with. This can be especially true when God begins dealing with the people we have allowed into our inner circle.

Love does not require us to ignore what is harmful. Grace does not require us to call wrong behavior right. And forgiveness does not mean giving someone unrestricted access to hurt us again. The Holy Spirit can help us recognize what does not belong in our lives, but we must be willing to listen when He does.

When the People Closest to Us Begin to Affect Our Walk with God

For single women, this is an area where we have to be especially careful. 2 Corinthians 6:14 (NKJV) says, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.” God is not telling us to isolate ourselves from people who do not believe as we do. The issue is influence and what we are allowing someone to become in our lives. There is a difference between loving someone and becoming bound to a relationship that continually pulls us away from God.

This is especially important in romantic relationships. A woman who desires a marriage where Jesus Christ is Head cannot ignore the spiritual direction, character, and behavior of the man she is considering building her life with. Love should not require us to compromise what we believe, silence our concerns, live in fear, or continually excuse behavior we know is wrong.

Sometimes the people closest to us can cause us to second-guess convictions God has already established in our hearts. In an abusive relationship, manipulation, intimidation, and control can make it even harder to trust what we know. It may seem like a tangled web, but if we ask, God will give us wisdom. James 1:5 (NKJV) says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God.” There are relationships we have to recognize for what they are, boundaries we may need to establish, and sometimes doors we have to close. Our loving Heavenly Father will help us to live free.

Don’t Let Another Voice Become Louder Than God’s

1Thessalonians 5:5(NLT) says, “For you are all children of the light and of the day; we don’t belong to darkness and night.” Jesus Christ never compromised the truth to make people comfortable. He recognized when people were trying to manipulate or trap Him, and He did not allow their behavior to pull Him away from what God had called Him to do.

Jesus stayed in prayer and communion with the Father. He knew who He was, who sent Him, and what He had been sent to accomplish. We need that same spiritual clarity. Especially when someone has repeatedly manipulated, controlled, intimidated, or caused us to question ourselves, we cannot afford to let another person's voice become louder than what God is saying to us through His Word and His Spirit.

Jesus Christ told the Pharisees in John 8:43-45(NLT), “43 Why can’t you understand what I am saying? It’s because you can’t even hear me! 44 For you are the children of your father the devil, and you love to do the evil things he does. He was a murderer from the beginning. He has always hated the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. 45 So when I tell the truth, you just naturally don’t believe me!”

Jesus did not allow their rejection of the truth to make Him question the truth. That is something we need to learn. People may not understand the changes God is making in you. They may not agree with your boundaries. They may even accuse you of thinking you are better than them because you have decided to live differently. But walking in obedience is not the same thing as thinking you are better than somebody else.

We can love people without following them, care about people without allowing them to control our direction, and pray for people without joining them in choices that God has told us to avoid.

We must open our eyes and recognize what God is showing us as we learn to stand in the light of Christ. We don’t need to shrink ourselves spiritually so that other people can remain comfortable around us. And we don’t need to hide what the Father is doing in our lives.

As we grow in Christ, some relationships may change. Some friendships may become more distant. Some romantic relationships may have to end. And yes, there may be people we have to leave behind. That is not always easy, and for someone dealing with abuse, leaving may require wisdom, support, and a plan for safety. But when we listen to His voice, God will help us every step of the way.

We are children of the light. We belong to Christ. So let the light He has placed within you become brighter as you grow in Him. Don't dim your light to keep somebody else comfortable in their darkness. ■

“Don’t Dim Your Light to Keep Others Comfortable”, written by Kim for https://DomesticAbuseAwareness.org© 2026. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.

Friday, September 11, 2026

Blessed Are Those Who Wait for Him

Trusting God When You Cannot See What He Is Doing

Isaiah 30:18 (NIV)
"Yet the LORD longs to be gracious to you; therefore he will rise up to show you compassion. For the LORD is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him!"

Waiting Can Reveal What Is in Our Hearts

There are things we carry in our hearts that weigh us down, and sometimes we don't recognize how deeply they have affected the way we think, make decisions, and respond to difficult circumstances. Fear can become so familiar that we call it wisdom. Trying to control everything can feel like being responsible. We can become accustomed to expecting the worst and call it being realistic. This is one reason God has given us the record of those who walked with Him before we came on the scene. Romans 15:4 tells us that the Scriptures were written to teach us and give us hope as we wait for God's promises to be fulfilled. The lives of those in the Old and New Testament show us people who trusted God and still struggled, made mistakes, became afraid, and sometimes tried to take matters into their own hands. Yet God continued to teach them, correct them, and strengthen their faith.

Abraham Had to Learn to Trust God

Abraham is one of the clearest examples we have of what it means to grow in our trust in God. He was seventy-five years old when God called him and promised to make him the father of a great nation, but Abraham was about one hundred years old when Isaac was born. That's a long time to hold on to a promise, especially when everything you can see tells you it isn't going to happen. Abraham believed God, but believing didn't mean that he never struggled with fear or doubt. There were times when he looked at his circumstances and responded to what he saw instead of what God had said. He misrepresented Sarah as his sister because he was afraid he would be killed because of her beauty, and Sarah eventually became so discouraged with waiting that she tried to bring God's promise to pass another way through Hagar. They had faith, but their faith had to grow. And I think that's something we need to understand. We can genuinely believe God and still have areas of our lives where we haven't learned to trust Him completely. The waiting has a way of exposing those places. What we do when we're afraid, when nothing seems to be changing, and when God's timing doesn't agree with ours can tell us a great deal about where we still need to grow in our trust in Him.

Fear Can Make Us Reach for Our Own Solutions

Fear has a way of convincing us that we have to do something, even when we don’t know what to do. Abraham and Sarah fell into this trap. Instead of trusting God to protect them, Abraham devised a plan that involved lying about Sarah being his wife. When Sarah became tired of waiting for the child God had promised, she came up with a plan of her own. We can read their record thousands of years later and clearly see where they went wrong, but it isn’t always so easy to recognize when we are doing the same thing. We pray and ask God for direction, but when the answer doesn’t come as quickly as we would like, we start trying to work things out ourselves.

Proverbs 3:5–6 (NLT) tells us, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his Will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” Trusting God does not mean that we do nothing. It means that we seek His wisdom before we move and that we refuse to allow fear, desperation, loneliness, or impatience to make our decisions for us. This is especially important when we are dealing with circumstances that are harmful or dangerous. God does not require us to remain in danger to prove that we trust Him. We can seek help, tell the truth about what is happening, and take the necessary steps to protect ourselves while continuing to seek God for His wisdom and direction.

Our Confidence Must Be in God

Romans 4:20–21 (NLT) tells us that Abraham “never wavered in believing God’s promise” and that he became “fully convinced that God is able to do whatever he promises.” This was the faith of a man who had walked with God and learned some things about His faithfulness. Abraham’s confidence was no longer in what he could see or what he could figure out on his own. His confidence was in God. This is where our confidence must be as well. We should always be willing to examine ourselves before the Lord, and when the Holy Spirit reveals something in us that needs to change, we should be humble enough to receive His correction. But we must not make the mistake of believing that every hardship or prolonged difficulty in our lives is evidence that we haven’t had enough faith. God was faithful when Abraham was seventy-five, and He was still faithful when Abraham was one hundred. Hebrews 10:23 (NLT) tells us, “Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise.” Our circumstances may change, and there may be times when we don’t understand what God is doing, but His character does not change.

Trust Him While You Wait

Isaiah 30:18 (NLT) says, “So the LORD must wait for you to come to him so he can show you his love and compassion. For the LORD is a faithful God. Blessed are those who wait for his help.” Waiting for God is not about sitting still while life falls apart around us. Neither is it about trying to manipulate circumstances until we get the outcome we want. It is about trusting God enough to seek Him, listen to Him, obey Him, and allow Him to lead us. There may be something He wants us to stop doing, something we need to confront, somewhere we need to go for help, or something within our own hearts that needs to change. We cannot decide ahead of time what His direction must look like. We simply have to be willing to follow it. God sees what we cannot see, He knows what we do not know, and He loves us far too much to leave us where we are. So while we wait, we keep seeking Him. We keep growing. We keep obeying. And most importantly, we keep our confidence in the One who has promised never to leave or forsake us.■