You Needed a Hard Shake to Wake Up

 

In James 1:2-4(NLT), the Apostle James encourages us to view our trials and tribulations not as mere burdens, but as opportunities for great joy. This passage states: “2 Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing." This point of view might seem contradictory to our way of thinking about difficulties. However, if we consider the importance of growing in faith, we will discover that trials and tribulations help to open our eyes to the greatness of God’s love and grace. 

Difficulties and painful circumstances are facts of life for everyone. But what really elevates our existence is not the absence of these trials; it’s our perspective and attitude towards them. We must remember that real transformation begins internally first, in our minds and hearts. This is why God directs us in Romans 12:2(NLT), “Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect." As we change our thoughts and attitudes to resemble the example of Christ, our outlook on every facet of life will be viewed through our faith in the power of God.

1John 4:18 (NLT) teaches: “Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.” God’s love is perfect love. He doesn’t punish us or cause us to be downtrodden and sad, going from one struggle to the next, but life on earth can be incredibly challenging at times. Our trials and tribulations shake us up, but James 1:2-4 is a wake-up call to face those tough times with a grin. This is a radical approach, and it may seem crazy, but not when we grasp that our faith is being purified and strengthened, so that it just gets stronger, and in our relationship with our Heavenly Father, we grow closer to Him continually.

Again, God doesn’t cause our trials and tribulations. He doesn’t desire us to endure suffering needlessly or trivialize our pain. Knowing the depth of our struggles, He wants us to lean on Him with all that we are—our trust, our doubts, our fears, and our hopes. Everything that we encounter in life offers us the choice to lean on God or rely solely on ourselves. In His omniscience, He already knows the outcomes of our choices and decisions. He understands the depths of our being more intimately than we do ourselves. Despite this, He grants us the freedom to choose our paths. It's through this freedom that the true essence of our character is revealed. So, we must choose to navigate life's challenges with faith in God because this is what sustains us.

Psalm 34:18-20 (NLT) “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed. The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time. For the Lord protects the bones of the righteous; no one of them is broken!” God will always come to our aid and rescue us when we need Him, but we shouldn’t want struggle and strife to always be our teachers. Many of us face ongoing trouble because we rely too heavily on others for our happiness. In these instances, it takes a hard shake to wake up some of us to God love, power, and grace. Jesus Christ offers us a better way: to lean on God with all our being—heart, mind, soul, and strength. By loving and prioritizing Him in our lives, we ensure our steadfast journey on the path to His purpose, provision, and care. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“You Needed a Hard Shake to Wake Up”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2024. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.

Coping with Painful Circumstances

 

Proverbs 16:24 (NLT)
“Kind words are like honey – sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”

Recently, I spoke with a woman who has been grappling with feelings of betrayal for nearly two years now. You'd think with time, healing would start to take hold, but it's not always that simple – especially when children are involved, and faith hasn't been a guiding force in the journey to healing. She's reached out to countless people, hoping for encouragement and comfort for her shattered heart. Some of the advice she’s received has steered her towards anger and resentment. So, instead of finding comfort, she's found bitterness creeping into her soul. She confided that she fears she'll never be capable of loving again.

Dealing with tough times is something we all face but coping with the pain of a partner's infidelity can be especially tough. It's like a heavy weight you carry around, making even the simplest tasks feel impossible. I've seen it firsthand, women reeling from the shock of betrayal, desperately trying to lessen the pain any way they can. It's a natural instinct, isn't it? When you're hurt, you want to shield yourself from more pain, just like you'd protect a physical wound.

Turning to those who do not know the Lord and haven’t given their lives to Him can sometimes worsen rather than alleviate pain. That's why passages like Proverbs 16:24 resonate so deeply, highlighting the restorative effect of kind words on the soul and body. Our Master Jesus said in John 14:27(NLT): “I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don't be troubled or afraid.” The Words of Christ bring us a peace that passes all understanding. They instruct, edify, and heal us.

It's our outlook and approach to challenges that truly shape our experiences as believers. We desperately need to hear the truth, especially when we’ve been attacked by the enemy, who tries to weaponize our relationships against us. Ephesians 6:12 (NLT) is a powerful reminder of the spiritual warfare that believers face: “For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” This is a reality check for us, reminding us that life isn’t all about what our physical eyes see. There’s a spiritual battle going on behind the scenes, and it’s no joke!

Ephesians 6:13,18(NLT) states: “13 Therefore, put on every piece of God's armor so you will be able to resist the enemy in the time of evil. Then after the battle you will still be standing firm. 18 Pray in the Spirit at all times and on every occasion. Stay alert and be persistent in your prayers for all believers everywhere.” Rather than succumbing to despair or resentment, this passage prompts us to equip ourselves with God’s spiritual armor of prayer, faith, and the truth of His Word to combat the schemes of the enemy. We can rely on the strength and protection that comes from our faith and stand strong continually.

 Realizing that our battles extend beyond human conflicts, but are against spiritual powers, enables us to face difficulties with wisdom and discernment. God doesn’t want us to shut down emotionally due to hurt or betrayal. Instead of harboring bitterness and anger towards people, we're encouraged to employ fail-proof weapons like prayer, faith, and truth. Whether it's betrayal in marriage or any other relationship, relying on these tools helps us navigate with the authority and power of Christ, avoiding emotional paralysis and fostering forgiveness and growth.

Trust in God is pivotal to overcoming brokenness. Psalm 51:10 (NLT) beautifully invites God’s restorative work within us: “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.”  Our loving Heavenly Father desires the best for us, far beyond our own comprehension. So, stay steadfast in faith, facing challenges with courage, because nothing can hinder the reality that your inner strength of faith will always manifest the victory of Christ. Despite pain or adversity caused by others, God's presence and power surpass all, guiding us to overcome with a renewed spirit. Take heart and trust in His unwavering strength. knowing that victory is within reach. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“Coping with Painful Circumstances”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2024. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.

A Glad Heart Makes a Happy Face

 

Proverbs 15:13 (NLT)
“A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit.”

Proverbs 15:13 (NLT) “A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit.”

Eric and Emma were MIA at Clara’s big shindig last weekend, and it wasn’t lost on anyone. These two are usually the first to arrive, with Emma staking her claim in the kitchen to keep tabs on Eric. They’ve been hitched for six years now, but what sticks out like a sore thumb is the tension between them.

Eric shattered Emma’s heart when she found out he’d been two-timing her a week before they tied the knot. The betrayal hit her hard, and she kicks herself for not spotting the signs earlier. "My marriage means the world to me, but sometimes I can't shake off the hurt," she admits.

When a marriage begins with feelings of insecurity and doubt in the other partner, those feelings don't disappear. They linger and can intensify, bringing distrust into encounters and experiences that should be filled with joy. Our Heavenly Father advises us in Proverbs 4:23(NLT): "Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life." This verse tells us that we should prioritize guarding our hearts because it holds immense power over the direction our lives take. The heart is the seat of our being, driving our actions and decisions. It's an internal reality, and as such, it's our responsibility and privilege to protect this inner realm from influences that can harm us spiritually and emotionally.

God tells us in Ephesians 4:31-32(NLT): "31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you." Forgiveness is a benchmark in the example of Christ. It's a profound virtue that can transform lives and relationships. At its core, it's about letting go of resentment, vengeance, and anger toward someone that has wronged us. It's grabbing onto faith, and releasing any fears and anxiety that we have. Emma found this very challenging to do.

Emma's fear of being hurt again was not only damaging her relationship with Eric, but more concerning, it was also eroding her relationship with God. Her paranoia about Eric's actions consumed her thoughts, infiltrating even the most mundane activities like trips to the grocery store, which became battlegrounds for accusations. Eric, constantly under Emma's scrutiny, grew anxious about interacting with any women he knew, fearing her relentless questioning. Without realizing it, Emma had adopted a rigid stance against forgiveness, hindering both her own heart and the possibility of healing in their relationship.

Our powerful Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ teaches us in Mark 11:25 (NLT): "25 But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too."  Forgiveness isn't a sign of weakness; it's a display of strength and resilience. It takes guts to forgive someone who's hurt us deeply. When we choose to forgive, we're not just letting go of the past; we're also reaffirming our faith and refusing to let pain dictate our lives.

Forgiveness isn't just about us; it sets off a chain reaction that can break the cycle of hurt and retaliation. It paves the way for Christ to reign supreme in our relationships. Holding onto grudges can mess with our spiritual and emotional well-being, but when we choose love through forgiveness, it's like flipping a switch! It transforms us, bringing smiles back to our faces and joy back to our hearts. 

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“A Glad Heart Makes a Happy Face”, written by Kim for https://rescuefromdomesticviolence.blogspot.com© 2024. All rights reserved. All praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.