Psalm
34:18(NLT)
"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose
spirits are crushed."
When our hearts are bruised and abandoned in a relationship,
it’s common to feel that the man has taken advantage of our love and violated our
trust. The sting of a situation like this can linger and make us bitter, so
much so that some of us vow to never trust a man again. Some of us may also
allow this heartache to interfere with our relationship with Heavenly Father.
We play the blame game and blame God for allowing us to get into such a hurtful
situation. We think that He should have warned us or kept us from ever meeting
this man. We must come to the reality that blaming anyone for our broken heart
isn’t going to lessen the pain. It only keeps us from examining the larger
issue, which is why we attract relationships with people that continually disappoint
us.
Relationships reflect how we view ourselves. This is a
big dose of truth that many are not able to digest. We’ve been told things
like, “we can’t help who we fall in love with” or “the heart wants what
the heart wants.” Myths like these convey a heart that is out of control.
They convey that people were not created with the ability to be disciplined
about matters of the heart, but God’s Word says the opposite.
God is not to blame for our heartache and pain, and it
is very important for us to correct this in our hearts and minds. Our Heavenly
Father is a loving God. 1John 4:16 affirms that God is love, and that we can
know and rely on the love that He has for us all, because His love will not
fail. This verse also says that all who live in God’s love also live in Him,
and He lives in them. This is tremendously good news! Living in God’s love gives
us the foundation to love others with confidence, because it shows that we’re
not conjuring up our own ideas about love; that wouldn’t work. To love through
God means that we shift from our brand of love to His.
Our brand of love usually includes a bit of selfishness
and sin, but God’s love is perfect! When we love through Him, we don’t make the
mistake of putting the person or anything else ahead of God. This understanding
is crucial. Proverbs 4:23 tells us to guard our hearts with God’s Word because the
issues of life flow from the heart. This means that even when we’re not aware
of it, our hearts are attracting or repelling situations and people. When God’s
love is number one in our hearts, we have the capacity to love from a very good
place—a place of His strength, and this can only help us. And not only this, we
will have the spiritual depth and maturity to maintain the relationships that
are important to us.
Living in God’s love means that we live according to
the example of Christ. Ephesians 5:2(NLT) urges us, “Live a life filled with
love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a
sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God.” Many of us get away from his
example when it comes to the significant person in our lives. We hardly ever
consider this man’s spiritual well-being. We don’t think about God’s plan for
his life or how our actions may be harming his spiritual growth in the long run.
We don’t think about the possibility that our connection to this person may
have been his only opportunity to see the love of Christ, and to see it operating
in someone that has no agenda other than to be a blessing to his spiritual walk.
2Timothy 1:7(ESV) tells us, “for God gave us a
spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” Sometimes we
come to the table with many insecurities. We fear we will not be loved
adequately, that if we don’t do certain things, the man will withhold his love or
not want to be with us. The man should never call the shots when it comes how
we respond to God’s love and Word. If we allow this, we will not be satisfied
with the results. God is letting us know that 2Timothy 1:7 is our reality, and
we must trust this. To demonstrate that we have faith in this truth in God’s
Word, our conduct must be rooted in God’s love, power, and self-control. When
it is, we are sufficiently guarding our hearts and allowing God the room to
bless our relationships.
It’s a spiritually immature move to want the rewards
but not do the things required to receive them. This is the kind of mindset that
leads to confusion, disappointment, and heartbreak. Yes, we’re going to make a
ton of mistakes in our significant relationships. We’ve done it in the past,
and we’ll most likely make a few doozies in the future, but through it all, our
hearts must be loyal to God. We must be motivated out of our love for Him. Relationships
do not give us license to chuck our responsibilities to the faith. They were
created by God to foster our relationship with Him. We don’t have to be emotionally
out-of-control, that’s not love. Instead, we should always make it a priority
to pray for God’s guidance and remain humble to Him. He will teach us to walk
in His power and love, and to be spiritually disciplined about matters of the
heart.■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the
Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of
Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
English Standard Version (ESV)
The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright ©
2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.
“Matters
of the Heart”, written by Kim for
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praise and honor to God through Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior.
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