Did you escape the pain? Have you had time
to reflect on where it all went wrong? Don’t be bitter, or be angry and above
all, do not hold a grudge.
1 John 4:11-13(NLT)
“Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us. And God has given us his Spirit as proof that we live in him and he in us.”
“Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us. And God has given us his Spirit as proof that we live in him and he in us.”
I got out of a relationship with someone
that I thought was a really good guy. He loved the Lord, preached on Sunday at
times and was a really good father to his children. We loved each other but
after about a year together, the relationship took a turn. His love became
painful – his insecurity would rear its ugly head if he called and couldn’t
reach me. Manipulation was how he handled pain and I was just not willing to
remain in a place where hurt and pain became the constant, instead of love.
I left this man, and it was indeed a
difficult break-up. I was truly committed to him and the relationship. It took
months before I could even think about him without shedding a tear, but I
endured the pain, because I’ve lived long enough to know that trouble doesn’t
last always. When we face heartache and trouble, God tells us exactly how to handle
it. In Romans 12:12(NLT), His Word tells us, “Rejoice in our confident hope.
Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.” Instead of letting myself
become bitter, I followed the Lord’s commandment.
As I busied myself, going on with my life,
I happened to see this man in passing one day, and before I knew it, I had
given him a smile. It was not forced or fake but came from a place that the
love of God had created in me. He emailed me and said he was so happy to see
me, but he said he was even more happy to see the smile I had given him. He
thought I hated him.
James 1:2-4(NLT) tells us, “2 Dear
brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an
opportunity for great joy. 3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your
endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is
fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.” God
wants us to get to a place where we are not dependent on a person to do for us
what only God can do. Heavenly Father is the Source of our joy, not a person.
If a relationship is harming us, it’s
harming our relationship with God. He will give us the strength to let it go.
One thing I know to be true, time causes us to forget some wounds, but only the
love of God can truly heal them. Just as 1John 4:11 tells, because of God’s
love for us, we should be able to love one another. Even if we want to hold a
grudge or be angry for a lifetime, our growth in the Spirit of Christ will not
allow us to do this. We can let go and be better and not bitter, and we’ll be
so much stronger for it.
Pray and ask God to give you a new heart, and let His love
blanket all your pain, as only He can.
Scripture
quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright
© 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois
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